LOL on the gift-wrapped finger...

Hmmmm...

Well, just a theory, but if I were a femdom, I'm not sure I'd be posting on a support site, wondering what I could do to make my partner please me more. I think I'd probably just move on to find someone who does.

It sounds as though your relationships would benefit from you doing first some intensive work on yourself and what drives you. If you're committed to staying exactly as you are, I worry that you'll be perpetually frustrated and wondering 'why?'.

You seem to have a good grasp of why you operate the way you do, but I'm not hearing motivation to change. Why keep going down the wrong path? If this is important to you, do you agree that some things need to change on your end?