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mellors said:
LMO if i was not in control of the relationship to start with, i relinquished that right at the start of the relationship, then how can i be to blame if it doesnt work out?

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I hate to use the word 'blame', but since you asked twice using the same word, I'll respond accordingly:

You are to blame for relinquishing RESPONSIBILITY for your end of the relationship. JMO