I wanted to stop at the word "dumb" too. So after reading closer I find it interesting that you are presenting an abuser/abused relationship. The very thing you appear to be in t for. I am wondering if either you are experiencing transference and he isn't exactly as you percieve right now. Or have you truly found an abusive t which is entirely possible. If you do decide to meet with a different t it might be worth figuring out which it is first. If it is transference you could just be repeating the same relationship dynamics over and over. Also, T's are a kind of authority figure. I am sensing there is a connection between the exchanges you are having and your history. Perhaps you want a male because of the role they have played in your life? I hope that makes sense.

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