Thanks for this - it's and interesting view, I haven't thought about it... Yeah, I know that it might look like a light version of abuser/abused relationship and it pretty annoys and surprises me as I would never think that I've ever had such relation with anyone - however actually many years ago the relationship with my brother could be similar...

Could that be a transference? I would always think that no, as I see my T as a T not as my brother or whoever else and it is just the second month of the therapy so I guess it would be too early... But it is of course possible that I am seeing my T as I want to and not as he really is - that's why I'm so confused and I have no idea if I really have a reason or not... Because words which I've cited, he has really said but of course the whole context is also very important and if it is really a transference he could have a reason to say what he said, right? I just cannot decide how I can find out what is going on...