You will get over your hurt by moving on and living what is next in your life. Each day that you enjoy something, you will be trading a little bit of hurt for a little bit of happiness. Gradually, that mountain of hurt will be eroded away.

He's not such a happy camper. Some day you may genuinely feel kind of sorry for him. Until then, be polite, but keep a good distance away from him, psychologically and physically. Life always surprises us by how it turns out - always a bit different from how we envision.

He didn't suddenly stop loving you. He had already stopped quite a good while ago. You were already living without marital love long before he announced his plan to divorce. Emotionally, this is not all that huge of a change because it has been changing for a few years now, at least.

Part of your dilemma is financial. Since, when he left, he took a huge amount of property with him, you are now less financially secure. So you feel a bit like someone who has lost a good job that came with good retirement benefits. You will have to make some adjustments in your manner of living, now and down the road. You can make those adjustments. You managed before you married him, and you will manage again. I'm glad us talking has felt helpful to you.