Did you go on the date yet? Sounds so exciting! When I went on first date with my bf, I was so nervous! I continued to be nervous every phone call & date for a couple months! But talked myself into savoring the butterflies in the stomach, cuz who knows, it could be a lasting relationship & I could think back & giggle about how nervous I was.
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Originally Posted by ptangptang
Yeah that's what i sort of think too but coffee is so meh and if it goes badly blah. Haha. Maybe i'll suggest the concert and then suggest coffee/drink and some food and then if we're not screaming at other by then and she fancies going somewhere afer then hey ho lets go. Or, due to my lack of height hi ho (hee hee). What do you think of the height situation.? Any other tips?
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I personally would love the date you have planned much more than coffee. I know a coffee first date is kinda standard here in states, mostly I thought for safety, daylight, public setting.
Let her set the pace, offer the things you could do, and get her feedback. But it's also nice for a man to be decisive & encouraging - she's probably nervous too! I'd like a man to say, "There's this wonderful place I want to take you!" But at the same time, he can't come on too strong or i'll run for the hills.
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Originally Posted by ptangptang
Thanks ladies. It's just that the first impression lasts and 5'4 looks better than 5'1" but yeah i guess lying ( even if it's a white lie) isn't a good idea. It's just that getting ladies to respond on dating sites is so hard that a few tweaks seem to be neccesary. We've seen each others pictures and assuming they are all kosher ( oy oy oy)- i'm not jewish tho, then all should be well. I think she's lovely and if she can cope with my ugly mug then all's good,. Oh and i go to London anyway so would go on to do other stuff anyway and want to go to the comedy club anyway ( that's also free). Oh dear she'll think i'm a real skinflint). Do you say that in the US?. I'll say i'll pay for a coffee but any extras she pays for herself. Haha. How would that go down.? Haha. I'm kidding of course.
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You have a great sense of humor! That always helps ease tension.
But be able to be serious & a good listener too. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I like the man to pay for the date & open doors for me & adore me. If I don't like him I insist to pay my own.
Regarding height, yes, most people tell some fib on their dating site profile. i caught my bf in the beginning on such a site, and he said he's 6'4" when he's 6'3", you can bet i gave him an ear load for that lol. For all you know, she may be shorter than hers says. And I really think everyone lies about their weight, that one you should wait to see if she even notices or comments.
I would tell her before the date that you told a little white lie about your height & see how she responds. I'm not sure I would change it on the site now because she will see it & think you're still looking for other women - why else even use the site? I'm 5'7" and don't mind shorter men, I think it's pretty hot when I'm taller. I had a super fun fling with a guy 5' , we danced our butts off & I will always remember how fun he was.
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Originally Posted by ptangptang
Hey Djinn. that sounds really great. We're you nervous?. Yeah i think you should do more than just go for a coffee. Also moving round breaks the tension a bit and lets you be more natural with each other. Hope mine goes just as well. Few weeks ?. Nah. If you both got on well contact her in a few days say how much you enjoyed it and fix something up for a weeks time. Don't let the grass grow under your feet. And if you do, go see the doctor cos you might be turning into a tree. ( see what she'll have to put up with).
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Yes! Do more than the coffee bore lol. I think you are so sweet to plan such a special date. I don't like the "wait 3 days to call" game. My bf gave me a call the next night to say he'd had a nice time & how was my day. I thought that was very gentlemanly.
Again you have a great sense of humor
Hope it went well!
