I am really glad you said that. I have been wondering today about termination. I went back to T after a 2 month break and I told her I had come back to find out if I wanted to terminate or not and to do it properly rather than just run away and never come back (as she had always advised me we should have closure). To my surprise she didn't suggest that at all, she said let's just leave things open, you can come back as frequently or infrequently as you like, I will always make time to fit you in, little updates by email that you are doing well are lovely to receive etc. And I went away wondering if I really needed closure or things would just fade away and was not sure how I felt about it. This has clarified it for me You are completely right, who says goodbye to someone that they care about and don't really want to say goodbye to? And you know their life is still going on and you can't be a part of it anymore. Now I am really happy with the way T has left it with me, a gradual tapering off (if and when I am ready) but still being in touch and caring about each other even if we don't actually 'meet anymore'.