I started therapy to work on my relationships, fear of dating, and attachment issues. It's going really well. I have turned a corner in my ability to trust him and we're working openly with my transference and I'm feeling hopeful.

But I have the nagging feeling I need something else from him, help with my fear of the dentist. Truthfully, this goes beyond a fear and I think it's safe to say it's a phobia. I have gone to the dentist maybe twice in 15 years. I have horrible memories of my childhood dentist and I have never once had a positive experience.

How on earth do I bring this up? It's killing me. He welcomes email, so I could start the conversation that way, but it's still scary. Has anyone veered away from your treatment to discuss something your therapist "never saw coming?" I've thought about terminating with him when I'm ready and then finding another T to work on my phobia, but we already have a relationship, why not work with that? He's mentioned he does phobia work with other clients, so I bet he could help me.

Lastly, my fear is very embarrassing to me. I hate talking about teeth, the dentist, everything. I'm ashamed of my inability to be an adult and just GO. I get anxious even looking for a dentist online