There are a couple of mother issues I might think of....
1) Mother wants you to be what she wasn't & wants to live her life through yours.

2) Just the opposite....Mother wants you to be just exactly LIKE her & doesn't think that anything less is worthwhile or even right.

It's hard to be a mom because we do want the best for our kids.....BUT THAT'S NOT the way to do it......some mom's got the wrong instruction manuel when they had their child.......it's important to be there & to help guide them along the path THEY are on....not the path that Mom thinks they should be on.

Don't know if any of you are only children (hmmmm interesting concept)....as I grew up an only child....I learned how to play games by myself....most of my growing up life I only had ME to entertain myself......some would call that introvert because what you live at home is bound to overflow into one's whole life outside of home. I got along at school, but my parents never had intellectual conversations & had no concept of how to have one & they had serious social anxiety problems of their own. Growing up in school all I truly remember is that education is your ticket our of where you are......boy did I want that ticket.

I am lucky that my parents never said anything like that to me....probably because they had no concept of being that way....however I do remember my grandmother was so caught up on looks....your eyebrows needed to be tweezed "just so".....geeze lady...get away from me with those things. I never bought into much of anything my parents said about anything & definitely NOT my grandmother. For some reason it always seemed like Old women came up with those STUPID statements of how people SHOULD be.......

Not sure where my self-confidence ever came from growing up in the family I did....but I learned very young to basically blow off anything parents & family ever said (unless it was an actual complement) because I never placed any value in their thoughts, ideas or what they said.

Think just blowing them off without trying to counter or argue or even try to get them to see where you are coming from is the best thing because some people are blind to any other concept than their own....so just go on knowing & doing what YOU ARE....& just basically IGNORE anything they have to say.....they go ahead & do your own thing & be who you really are.