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Old Jan 29, 2014, 10:55 PM
Yearning0723 Yearning0723 is offline
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Originally Posted by feralkittymom View Post
I volunteer with kids, and if one of them came up to me and said, "Do you care about me?" I would never dream of saying, "I care about all my students," to that kid. I would instead say something like, "Of course I care about you. I also care about everyone in your class." Maybe it's a really tiny arbitrary thing, but to me there was just something about that particular wording that felt really wrong to me.

I think this is the crux of it. The difference is you're not a child, and your interaction is within a therapy relationship. But your lingering feeling of dissatisfaction about her response is very much as you would imagine the child in your example feeling. That's something to explore.
Definitely true...but emotionally sometimes I am that kid and need a little bit of extra care/understanding around that. And I think it would be the same with high school students - I don't think any high school teacher whose students asked if they were cared about would respond that (s)he cares about all the students in his/her class. And I was in high school less than a year ago, so...that?
Thanks for this!
Syra