Sure. But it's still a need that can't be satisfied on demand. I suspect that if she did respond as you imagine you'd want, you might doubt it.

Is it that you feel you broke a boundary and so on some level think you deserve punishment? Is that what leads you to doubt the authenticity of her caring response after those times? I don't understand why you're working so hard to discredit her caring based upon the circumstances that provoked it. Why are they tied together? I just don't see any evidence that she's easily manipulated, so I wonder if this isn't about some other need to doubt/not accept her caring, or feel uncomfortable with it?