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Originally Posted by Clementine K
I think it's perfectly reasonable to expect to hear 'I care about you!' from a therapist and don't think it's a childish need at all. Heck I wouldn't want to work with a therapist that doesn't care about me as an individual- or would refuse to try to get there. Geez. Now, 'I love you!' is a different story, but I won't get into that.
This all just feels like withholding and rejection to me... And Yearning please don't take any of this personally. Agreed with others that it's the therapist's issue.
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Yeah, I think it feels like this is bringing up other stuff about other people being withholding/rejection, which is probably my own projection onto her...part of me does feel like it's wrong to expect/want/need care, and part of me is being reminded of other people (parents) not meeting my need to feel cared about/understood/seen. Which is actually my issue, not hers, and maybe something we need to discuss about next session.
It sort of reminds me of when I was maybe six or seven and my mother would be upset at me for some reason and I would want to mend things with her so I would go to try to give her hugs and she would physically push me away and refuse to even speak to me because she was so upset, when all I really wanted was for her to reassure me that she still loved me and cared about me, and when I asked her or tried to elicit that response she would accuse me of trying to manipulate her...maybe it's bringing up some stuff around that...