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Old Jan 29, 2014, 11:19 PM
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Originally Posted by Clementine K View Post
I'm not so sure. Wanting to be cared about is a basic human need. Especially in the intimacy of a therapy relationship. Outside of my therapy, I like to know that people i see a lot - my friends, coworkers, boss etc - care about me.... I don't mean in a nurturing cuddling way, but in a 'Im really rooting for you and hope you do well in life' kind of way. Or worse but still okay caring in a 'Id be really upset if you got hit by a bus' kind of way.
But isn't the therapist's mandate to keep their own needs (however basic and however human) out of the therapy session and not use their clients to fulfill them? I think for her, me telling her I don't care about her would elicit a shrug, whereas her partner/sibling/boss/friend/whoever else telling her they don't care about her might be upsetting.