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Originally Posted by olivia819
Unfortunately, you must work on your relationship with your husband as he is closer to you than a friend. Friends come and go... and that is a terrible part of life sometimes.
Once you feel better, you can discuss your issue with your friend---a true friend would never NOT listen to you bc you are in pain. That is their job! Their job is to be there and if they are not, you need to be strong for yourself!!!
Talk to your husband, before anything. You live together and you share a life and remember that your problems are not lesser than anyone else's and nobody can judge you for how you feel.
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Hi Olivia, yeah, I know that I need to work on my relationship with my husband more. He's not the most expressive person, and he is usually quite stoic around me, so I'm not taking this to personally. At least he's helping me out with the housework when I ask him to. He did ask me if I'm still sick and he got me water when I asked for it-
As for my friends, yeah, if I don't hear from them soon, I'll have a talk with them. I just feel like my bff friend especially has been more distant for awhile. I can't help but feel as if she just wants to avoid talking about any issues that aren't really her own as much as possible now. She used to be more caring!
I have given her the benefit of the doubt, but if she keeps this up, and if she keeps on telling me that hearing about my issues will trigger a panic attack in her, I'll call B.S on it as nicely as I can. I have had problems with really bad panic attacks since I was about 20. It didn't get better until I was in my mid 30's. I still have issues with panic attacks, but it's rare now and it's only triggered by certain people and situations. Meds really help!
I'm not stupid, so if she keeps on using the "I can't deal with stress from you since I'll get a panic attack if I do to often", I'll know for a fact that it's a lie. I'm just cutting her some slack for now since she's going through a lot, but I can't help but feel hurt at her indifference. Also, another good friend didn't bother to respond to my email yet and it's day two! Acquaintances are more concerned about me!
Thanks for responding!