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Originally Posted by gayleggg
There are a lot of possibilities. Could be you bff could be overwhelmed herself and can't reach out right now. Sounds like she is under a lot of stress and even though you have been there for her, she may not have your strength.
As far as you dad, do you know for sure he got your text. Why not call him? He may not want to bother you while you are sick.
I can remember when I had cancer I had several friends I expected to call but they didn't. Turned out they were afraid of bothering in case I was feeling bad. Even my mother didn't 'bother' me on chemo days. Nothing would have made me happier than to hear her voice, but I didn't want bother her so i didn't call her either. Silly Huh.
And some people just are more thoughtful than others. That doesn't mean they don't care. They just don't show the way you do.
Anyway I hope you feel better soon.
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My bff is really overwhelmed for now. So that is why I didn't say anything to her.... yet. This is getting ridiculous. She knew that I'm sick, yet she doesn't have ONE minute to text, call, or email me back to let me know that she cares about me getting better? This hasn't been the first time that she's been thoughtless btw.
As long as I've known her, there has never really been a moment to where she's not overwhelmed or in some family or guy crisis. And I've always been there for her each time. It seems like she no longer cares about me as much and that our friendship has become a lot more one sided. Perhaps I cut her to much slack, and now she it seems as if I'm being taken for granted.
For now I'll give her a little more time to respond, but I've had panic attacks before too, and I've had them for years, so she can't use that as an excuse for to long as I've never heard of anyone being to anxious to wish their friend well when they get sick. It just sounds like an excuse to me mostly. It's selfish IMHO.
Friendship should not be one sided. She told me that she can't bear to hear the pain in my voice over the phone, so it's better for her to just email me now. She told me that she really cares about me a lot, but her actions speak otherwise. This was over some past issues with my husband though, not this, but it seems as if she can't deal with any of my problems now period, ugh!
I'm so sorry to hear about your past struggles with cancer! I'm glad that you're OK now! Also, sorry to hear that your friends and family didn't bother to call you when you were in the hospital! I'm shocked by that! Did you ever tell them how you felt? And yes, you could've reached out to them too, but I can see why you didn't. They should've been the one reaching out to YOU!
Thanks for the well wishes and the cute get well card-
Angie