Hi I've just been reading this. I split from my husband ten years ago after he had an affair,it was a terrible time as we had two young children and I was recovering from post natal depression. He was a horrible person and I know I'm so much better off without him but the pain is still there,hasn't really lessened and I haven't been able to move on. He married the woman and is still with her so they were obviously meant to be. But I have been left with the fall out,am now very unwell with fibromyalgia,I have brought up my two beautiful children though,so something good came out of it all. I think anything like this does scar you,I still have nightmares. I do hope you can move on,have you had any counselling?xx