(((Jkw223))) you're husband is a good man responding to very evil situations. What might make jim feel more helpless is his clients are already dead and he can't fix that. You are are nurse, you can save andhelp people. You can alleviate suffering. But also, yes, you need to take care of you as well. You are exposed to trauma at your job and through hearing about your husband's. I hope you both find a compassionate well qualified trauma therapist. May angels surround you.