What prompted your curiosity to go into his e-mails? Has he been behaving withdrawn or something, to that effect? Was this news, rather recent? And you felt the need to settle your mind?
Having looked at porn, three years ago, as a 20 year old man, isn't a crime. Doesn't mean, he won't make a wonderful husband and future father.
I guess my concern, is from this, is how is he to trust you? By making this, such a huge deal, it's almost as though, you've passed judgment on the person who wants to marry you.
Was this, literally, taking something, away from your relationship. A poster on this thread alludes to the fact that this isn't in the DSM. Porn, as with many things, becomes an issue, when it consumes a person, in ways that they aren't behaving in a functional way.
Some view it, as support of the degradation of people, and exploitation of people. Are you worried, that your bf, isn't of sound moral character, because he did this? Would, it really mean, that he's not of sound moral character, if he had enjoyed it? Is it, the end of the road, for the two of you? He didn't exactly, cheat on you, and those that enjoy photos and videos of this nature, aren't necessarily susceptible to going down a cheaters path either.
Some factions of society preach this, as the greatest ill, known to mankind. I am not so sure, that it really is.
What are you, really, unsettled about where your relationship, is concerned?
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Originally Posted by koloradokid
Last night I logged into his e-mail account
I found conversations with girls.
3 years ago. He had been talking to some girl, and she asked if he wanted to see pictures. He said sure.
after two pictures, he asked for another one. He said he felt he was getting sucked in.he said that he felt guilty and stopped using Omegle altogether after he asked for another picture.
His actions took place 3 years ago, and he doesn't show any signs that he looks at porn. Deep in my heart I really don't think he is looking at porn or asking for pictures from strangers. He has changed and grown a lot over the past 3 years. He seems really committed, and has put himself through school and now the navy reserves to become a better person for me because he said he wants to marry me.
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