I agree with everything MotownJohnny said. To change, Krisjack81, it requires a better attitude and the unwavering, unshakable desire to make yourself into the person you want to be. Take baby steps, if it helps. In other words, don't try to change everything about yourself that you see as undesirable, just start off with one or two things you want to change. Don't give up and work on your self confidence. That is one thing that I have found women really like, and it does make a difference. Good Luck.