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Originally Posted by Asiablue
I know it's not nice and you've been brave already. But i really think this is important stuff and the guilt and shame you're feeling is the strong conditioning you've had growing up and not because what you're doing is wrong.
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I know it's important. Just scary. Because I feel SO guilty, even if there maybe isn't much reason for that - I mean, I was doing my best to respect her boundaries and communicate appropriately with her. But still she got upset(ish - perhaps I'm overstating this) at me, and I just want to make it better. Transference? Most definitely. Which sucks, because usually our relationship is completely transference-free. We talk about transference a lot, actually, and have concluded that there wasn't a lot of it, if any, up until now...