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Old Jan 30, 2014, 11:43 PM
Yearning0723 Yearning0723 is offline
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Originally Posted by Asiablue View Post
The just you wanting to make it better part is a hangover from childhood, it sounds like you were the pacifier. THe boundaries thing seem super important to you, can you explore why? It seems to go deeper than just wanting to be respectful.
More transference - not wanting to upset or hurt the other person by trying to get closer than they're comfortable with. (I did not do so well with that in the past, and it feels like I'm failing all over again. Transference. Sigh.)