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Originally Posted by Asiablue
Dude, you were a kid! Cut yourself some slack, you're barely into adulthood as it is. And needing someone is so normal, just spend time on these boards, you'll lose count the amount of people who depend on their therapist or see them as parental figures. There is nothing wrong with any of that. We often regress in the therapy room.
As long as you're turning up and making an effort to some degree, you're not failing.
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Well, the situations I'm referring to aren't situations with parents but with other adults; teachers are a big one, social workers, other Ts...people who I couldn't REALLY be close to but who I wanted to parent me anyway. I thought I was past all this...I don't usually have that kind of maternal transference with this T (never had it in the seven months we've been working together, actually). So it feels like I was handling myself really well for awhile and then suddenly went back to being a five-year-old who needs her mom to tell her, "Yes, baby, I love you too."
I don't think that's actually the situation here with T; I think there might be actual valid reasons that I want her to care about me that have nothing to do with maternal transference...but I can't help but be reminded of that situation.