You need to consider moving to Boston or NYC or San Francisco. That would solve your problem, and from afar you can still be in touch with the family via phone and email and Skype and social networks.

But those cities are all much more expensive than Arkansas. Denver may be cheaper but still gay-friendly.

I don't remember which writer said that there is no emotional problem that crossing the Atlantic could not solve. It was written during the times of sea travel, before airplanes. But the point remains - change your scenery.