Thanks for the input. I can see how children can make you more durable in some ways, but I see so many suffering because their parents are not coping and providing a stable home for them. This makes me sad that so many children are in for a life of emotional disregulation because they were not taught correctly, in turn meaning a whole new generation of mental illness.

How did you learn emotional regulation skills? I have done the therapy over the years and am re-doing work books now but its all distraction rather than dealing with the emotion. When they advise to sit with the emotion it ends in one of 3 ways at the moment - tears, panic or turning to drugs, usually after "sitting" with the emotion for a few hours. I am searching for therapy material but for the courses I have this is the advice.

This has only recently become an issue for me again. I was fine for years, but at the moment I am finding it so difficult to deal with distress. I know some of it is hormonal but I'd like to think I have some control over my emotions!