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Old Jan 31, 2014, 07:03 AM
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My ex even after we are apart now says the meanest thing to me when he is hurt and is so cruel. I have never experienced this in a relationship before. Is this common in bi polar disorder or more a personality disorder trait?
My states website for domestic violence states that 'most' abusers have either Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder.

Words do hurt. How is it, that he is still in contact with you?

Just because a person 'may' have a disorder, doesn't excuse the behavior. I feel that the state mentions this, to help victims of abuse, try to get an understanding as to why is this happening to me. There's steps, in therapy, that are important for a victim to work through. The hows and whys, this has happened, and how to reach an emotional level, to not place oneself into another abusive pattern.

Which leads me back, to, why are you still in contact with a person, that continues to treat you like this? Do you have kids with him, or something shared?