Yearning,
I just want you to know that I've read every word of this thread. Iit so very accurately describes my own struggle with my t. I really understand how you're feeling, and why.

I have felt these same emotions and the same confusion regarding: Is it my t who is being insensitive? or Is what I want/need wrong? And the whole switcheroo between feeling angry at t versus feeling guilt and shame myself for having what feels like excessive needs.
I SO appreciate all of the responses to the thread too. They are helping me evaluate the very similar (and repetitive) conflict that my t and I have.
Hugs and hope to you,
Peaches