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Originally Posted by hankster
Read what you wrote here. The gift is in her listening. I think we take our ts for granted. I valued the regularity of the bus that took me to t, and he's like, hello? She IS doing it - it sounds like you want to be in control of it somehow. Youre saying its not exactly right, its not enough - what is this other thing youre searching for? This could be a big breakthru, but its elusive. And its not your ts thing. You keep circling around it, logically. Time to feel.
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exactly! Feelings are rarely rational, and i sense that part is being repressed due to yearnings feelings of shame over having needs.
But i don't think it's unreasonable to feel like the T is invested in you personally and not as some faceless collective. The T may be listening and caring for yearning in the usual therapisty way, and she may even deep down really care about yearning but if the client isn't "feeling" that care then it doesn't matter what the therapist thinks or feels she's doing right. She needs to find a way to connect in a way that is meaningful to Yearning.