You asked about everyone making a big deal about your cutting. If you step outside of the situation for a minute and think again about someone like you who uses cutting and isn't dealing with problems in life, but using cutting not to think about those problems, wouldn't you have some concern for her? You could relate to her, and understand why she does it, and advise her on how to minimize some of the safety risks. But would you also be concerned that she has so much pain and hurt that she can't deal with it? Cutting does have a function, and you recognized that it is pushing away the problems that you don't want to deal with. But the thing is, there are still those problems that you don't want to deal with, and they are still there. One of the functions of cutting is that it sends a loud and clear message that this is a person who has a lot of pain and problems and doesn't have what she needs to be able to deal with those problems. The normal response from someone who loves and cares about you is to want to help you deal with those problems, because not dealing with them will mean that you keep being this hurt, and you don't have to. There is support for dealing with the problems. It does take work and effort, but you have people who care about you and want to help you, and you are smart and resourceful, and you can do it. And you can have a happier life.

People are going to be concerned about you if you are cutting. That's because they care about you. They aren't going to stop. It is fair to ask them to understand that you aren't doing this for no reason - it has a purpose for you. But the other part of fair is that your part is to accept that they feel the way that they do also, and there is still the problem of all the problems that are causing you to feel like hurting yourself. If you have problems like that, you do need some help with them. Right? Your family is going to want you to have help dealing with your problems, because when you care about someone it just isn't okay that they hurt that much and aren't able to deal with it.