Honey you might just not have found the right woman! I don't want to get into too many detail out here in the forum, but there are some tricks ! Not to mention that your values maybe subconsciously preventing you from being aroused the way you desire. NOT THAT THAT'S A BAD THING! In fact, that part is Awesome! I mean, if I want seeing someone & was about 15 years younger...... Anyway I'm just saying, one day it'll happen for you & she'll be worth waiting for!
(I need to go smoke a cigarette now)