A: You're not a failure. Absolutely no one, man or woman, no matter their age, is judged based whether they've had sex or not. There's no reason you should judge you self based on that either. We find our self-worth in millions of different aspects of life. Anybody who says otherwise isn't worth an ear for listening to.

B: Don't count yourself out. Plenty of folks find relationships at different points of life. I can guarantee that you are hardly alone in your situation and giving up hope for the future certainly leads nowhere good.

I am personally committed to lifelong celibacy by choice. But that doesn't mean that I've given up the hope of finding someone with whom I can be emotionally close to as would be the case with most relationships. I know it's hardly likely but the knowledge that it could happen really keeps me going some times. It should keep you going to.