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Jan 31, 2014, 06:42 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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Quote:
Originally Posted by hotchicken
Why didn't I have an abortion?
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I don't mean to harp on this, but your comment could have a big role in why your daughter does not "obey" you. It's hitting below the belt, as if to say you wish she never existed....or would rather see her dead.
Your other obstacle, which is major, are your parents. If they can't respect your authority as a parent, why should your daughter?
I was a single parent, but I had my own place and paid my own bills. My son knows I would run myself ragged and/or die for him. My parents were ailing, but they lived nearby. My parents were very respectful and approving of my parenting skills, and I allowed my father to "spoil" my son when they were together. When I'd tell my son he couldn't have a cookie, I'd catch my dad sneaking him a cookie. I'd just shake my head and laugh because I knew they didn't have much time together.
When my father's cancer began to spread, I made the choice to move back with them so that I could care for them directly. I loved my father dearly, and he felt the same.
It was a nightmare. Within a few days, it seemed the tables were turned. I began arguing with my father when it came to my son. I would demand to have my authority back, and he'd resort to treating me as if I were a little girl.
After a few months, I told my father I didn't want to spend his final days arguing with him - because I loved him too much. My parents understood the need for separation, and they agreed.
I'm thankful I did that because my parents died two years later, within eight days of each other. I bought the house after they passed - my half, according to the wishes of my father. I'm often haunted by memories, excruciating memories, but I'm also reminded of all the love that lived and continues to live in this house.
Is there any way you can get a place of your own? Do you love your daughter? If so, can you dig deep into your heart and find a way to make her feel that love?
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