Today my therapist talked about forgiveness. I have recently been triggered by some family stuff which has been stressful for me.

My therapist says i need to at some point on my healing journey think about forgiving my family for the neglect and abuse that happened. She also said i need to also then forgive myself. She says that part of the reason i still get stressed and angry at certain members and situations is because i have not forgiving them and myself. She says i don't have to actually tell them i forgive them but in myself forgive them for them not knowing better as they themselves were just messed up, and to to forgive myself for being angry at myself and treating myself badly when i didn't know better and was only reacting to my surroundings.

She says im not at that place yet but i need to think about it and be more compassionate to myself. Has anyone else faced and dealt with the whole forgiveness stuff, did it help you move forward ?