I look at T, with the exception of thinking - then I always look away to gather my thoughts (i think that's pretty normal though). I used to look at the bookshelf when I first started, and every now and then I drift there, but like someone previously stated. The connection is better when I look at her.

She doesn't always look at me either. She just goes with the flow; if I'm turned and looking completely away (usually lost in my head by this point), she tends to kind of stare off as well but it doesn't affect the conversation.