It's not at all easy or automatic! At first in most groups I'd realize how "normal" my childhood/growing up seemed to me and how "messed up" the others seemed :-) That wasn't a very good attitude either.

Do you have/have you noticed any quirks you have in group? I use to like to sit in a certain seat or beside certain people and not others. Notice that sort of feeling (scary to talk about though). For me there was often a lot of fleeting stuff I had to teach myself to catch; admiration or jealousy that one person could talk more easily than I could, fear that I was going to be "called on" next or called out for not having much to say, asked my opinion, etc. Sometimes I wish I could go back and try again :-) I feel like I was looking in the "wrong" direction when I'd be asked something, I remind/reminded myself of an animal, specifically cats :-) who look at your finger when you point instead of what you're pointing at?