This hits close to home. I strolled into my pdocs office, outright, asking him, if I was bipolar. The emotional reactivity that comes from years of abuse, leaves one questioning their own state of mind. He told, me, that he'd need to sit down with me, through many more sessions and communicate with my talk therapist and I'd venture to state, perhaps even discussed things, with my neurologist, of whom, I'd disclosed parts of my abuse experiences, especially one event back in '08 that was a matter of days prior to my routine neurological exam. ((I's certain, at this point, the 'I think I was assaulted' statement that led to a subsequent referral to my pdoc.))

I agree, about not trying to appease your abuser, into having some type of friendly amicable divorce, 'for the sake of the kids.' Reality, is that they often try to make it appear that you are a no good, horrible mother for 'taking their kids' away from them in divorce. My ex, had his family psycho-babble analyze me, in ways, that the bi polar talk was coming out, but one nephews wife, stated it was closer to ptsd what I was dealing with, and none of this psycho babble was done in some kind, generous, let's sit down and talk to you face to face, way either. Imagine, kids on a school yard, as one child walks by, whispers and mumbling statements.

I'd say, if kids are involved, though Rose states, that her impression that therapy does no good, I'd say it does, only if you are doing more work on top of it all, to overcome to codep traits that go along with sticking by someone who's personality is like night and day...