I understand what you're saying. My situation is the same, minus one of my abusers (who is alive). We don't have to go and talk to these people...not at all. It's merely an emotional event that occurs inside of ourselves.

So, while your abusers are gone, and you're still suffering: the key is eventually deciding that you're able to let go of this weight that you have been carrying for so long. You need to let it go for yourself.

Does that make better sense to you now?? I hope so!