No one should be able to tell you whether or not you should forgive. It is up to you, and not forgiving can be just as healing. People think of forgiveness differently. I had been told my whole adult life that "all you need to do is forgive." But recently i had a therapist who agreed with me that i dont HAVE to forgive. Sometimes not forgiving is part of the healing process. What needs to happen though, is to let go of what we did not have and grieve the loss. That is how to heal