hey Hazel, thanks! Yeah, I didn't make this clear at all in my post because I'm just triggered and ranting but I'm 26, have an apartment w/ roomate and an assortment of part-time jobs, and a very nice, helpful therapist who has told me a couple of times recently that he's delighted I'm applying to grad school far away from my parents. I'm trying to figure out if I can keep them in my life in a way that doesn't make me feel like sh&t.