Many mothers use weight as a weapon against their daughters. My friends mom's do. They feel entitled to hurt their kids and often as a punishment for the kid "ignoring" the mom by simply having their own life. The mom wants to hurt them so they will come running back. Both my friend's mothers are like this. The moms know weight is a sore thing of women of today so they put their thumb down right there... "I see you gained weight...." or "Why are you so fat now?" (And neither are fat per se.) Total sigh. I think it's a mom thing.