My partner and I were discussing this the other day (while painting the bathroom of all things). The both of us are asexual, her being a repulsed-asexual, me being more indifferent. That being said, we do make out and the like that doesn't involve sexual attitudes (I know, we sound like teenagers with no idea what we're doing), and we DO manage to have our own kinks. The thing is, we believe it's been so shoved down our throats that kink = sex and that there is no way around it. Though our kinks really aren't sexual, at least to us. (we like power plays, mostly mental things, though I am partial to hair pulling~)

Is this a thing that other people do? We find intimacy in cuddling, massages, etc. We just... don't like sex. I am just really curious to hear if this is a "thing" or not.