If it's a crush, I say work through it. If it's an obsession I say work through it with extreme caution.

My ET was a crush, bordering on obsession. I'm doing better now, albeit very slowly. Things got a lot better after I disclosed my feelings. My crush hasn't faded but the shame is lessening, and for me that was the hardest part. Since I never really wanted my T in real life, lessening the shame has allowed me to explore my feelings for him and what they really mean in the greater context.

It remains to be seen how this will all end, but I knew that quitting therapy without disclosing my feelings was going to leave a hole in my heart that wouldn't heal anytime soon. I'm glad I made the choice to share my feelings because I didn't make the choice to fall in love!