Yeah, I can relate totally! I wish I had some good advice for you, but I am dealing with the same thing myself. My therapist is helping me thru that right now. I know in my situation, it comes from low self esteem, and coming from a "sick" family. I like the idea of setting goals for one's self also. That is something that my therapist is helping me do also. Anyway, I wish I could give you some real great advice, but I'm not sure what else to tell you right now, except to know that you are not alone in this. I do find that coming on here helps alot-at least for me.