I too have been used to the negative all my life, so having such a low opinion of myself, I find it very disconcerting and somewhat embarrassing when my T does this; I have never had a therapist that has shown me such warmth and acceptance as this one, and I am fairly new (a couple months) seeing her. She did it today: pulled her chair close to me and I admit it was uncomfortable yet I felt the warmth emanating from her, and it was nice to feel so accepted by her. I am still at the tentative stage where I am afraid I will say or do something to put her off, but that is my nature. It is great to feel this sort of caring and know that it is real. I need to keep telling myself it is okay to trust her, that she does care about me. I love this feeling!