My therapist would describe it, as some people have struggles with emotionally divorcing their ex spouses. I am not, quite certain, how to describe what the path to healing for that is, as it was explained to me, in terms of my exh.

He has struggled and continues to struggle with how he'd pushed me away and mistreated me, in marriage, and even after marriage. Not to say, that's how things were for you, but it's my reality. He'd told me,[my ex], numerous times, that it was all my mom's fault, that I'd divorced, that she had turned me against him, and many other things were said.

I hope you are able to reach a place, of acceptance, in your grief process.