Your therapist sounds like big trouble. It sounds like you're playing a very dangerous game with someone who doesn't have the right skills or an adequately strong sense of professional ethics.

Re your last paragraph: You talk openly with him. But he should be very judicious about what he shares with you. It isn't his job to share his feelings with you. It sounds like you want him to tell you he fantasizes about sex with you too. That would be massively inappropriate.

Your relationship with him has just about ceased to be a safe and therapeutic one for you. Of course I get the sweet agony of being attracted to and infatuated with someone and I also get the intensity of transference toward one's T. But you should think hard about the consequences of having a sexual relationship with your T. Read other people's stories about this. Many women (and no doubt some men too) have been seriously hurt by this kind of thing.

Just because the idea is exciting and you can't stop thinking about it doesn't make it a good or smart idea.