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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
Of course not. But when you express those feelings through actions, you put the other person in the position of responding. If the feelings are of mutual intensity (whether high or low), and there are no circumstances that would impose an alternate dynamic, no problem.
But if the intensity isn't mutual--if it's asymmetrical--then it puts the other person in an uncomfortable position.
Your concern about your vulnerability seems heightened, which makes me wonder if the intensity of your feelings isn't heightened, too. When people feel undeserving of positive attention, they sometimes over-interpret it as more meaningful than it is. I just feel like there's more going on here, related to your T, too, that goes deeper than the situation appears.
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I've always felt EVERYTHING more deeply than other people. I used to think everyone's emotions were this intense, but then I grew up and realized, nope, it was just me. But apparently my emotions aren't intense enough to warrant a clinical diagnosis, so there's that.
I know that I do interpret kindness as meaning much more than it actually does, but I don't know how to make small kind gestures LESS important to me, or even if that would be desirable. Hard to know whether feeling things less deeply would be a plus or a minus since I've never had that experience.