I would try to not personalize it, listen to what he has to say and realize that he is not critisizing you, but himself. It's really difficult not to get wrapped up in that stuff. I've been learning to distance myself from my mom when she does stuff like that. It's hard but it's made my life so much easier. I don't do exactly what I want or what I want, I try to compromise so we're both happy. I'm not really sure if this is helpful to you or not. Good Luck *HUGS*