This relationship is very complicated but speaking for myself, I wouldn't want a cheater. A cheater is dishonest and that means he is capable of lying, doing things behind your back, and has no character. I wouldn't want a man with no character. I would have no trust or respect for him. I wouldn't want a non supportive man who said what he said about your schooling and making money. From the way you describe it, this union sounds dismal and negative and I'd be xxxx if that's how I'd live. I rather be alone than wish I were. I suppose there is some comfort in familiarity but I don't see a bright, happy, joy filled life with this man. It just doesn't sound healthy.