I have talked about it with her, i can't remember what she said exactly. She knows my fear of overwhelming her. There are rules in place where i can only call in a crisis... she determines this as when i start to get in a place where i feel awful and i've tried other things to help myself but they aren't helping; then that's when to phone.
It should seem simple. But for me, i dunno i just can't grasp when to call and i can't titrate my neediness, or my emotions and i regularly feel like my emotions are overwhelming me and if i get used to contacting her when i feel like that then i seem to be able to tolerate things less by myself.