I totally get that. I also have no clue most of the time when to consider something a "crisis". My T doesn't really care much if it's a true crisis or not, I don't think. If I feel like I need to talk to her, then it's okay to contact her. Part of my past has been being neglected and ignored, and I think she wants to make sure I don't feel like that in my relationship with her, so she tries to be very available and non-judgmental to me in this regard. I know that doesn't help you, but I guess I would encourage you to contact her when you feel overwhelmed, or maybe make a list of things to try before contacting her? Like a checklist of sorts, and when you have checked everything off and are still feeling anxious or overwhelmed or depressed etc... then contact her.